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Twenty Something Chaos

It is a well documented fact that being a twenty-something is a very confusing time. There is no right way to stumble through your twenties and right now I am honestly just lost in the whirlwind of it all. It is like being lost in an amazing place but you have no map, no phone and you have no idea where you are going.

I left university eight weeks ago and since then everything has just made me think….tumblr_m0dphhcxqz1rqfhi2o1_500When I was younger I was told: ‘Go to University and then you’ll get a job you enjoy‘ What they didn’t tell me was that by the time I finished university I would have absolutely no idea what I actually want to do with my life or that I would be in huge amounts of debt and have to wade through countless minimum wage jobs until I find something worthwhile.

I was also under the impression that by the age of 23 I would feel like an adult. If anything I feel like a slightly more confused teenager under pressure to act older. There are many decisions to be made in your twenties that could define the rest of your life but most days I don’t want those decisions, I just feel like packing up and exploring the world… This brings me on to the new land mark of being a twenty something: Travel!! ‘Travel in your twenties, its your only time to do it!’ I’m told constantly. I plan to do this and I do travel as much as I can however like a lot of twenty somethings we aren’t generally the richest bunch..


With the threat of looming student loans and the tumultuous nature of today’s job market it’s really not that easy to save up for these inspiring ‘Eat Pray Love‘ type trips that help you ‘find yourself‘ or so they say.. I am going away for six weeks in three months which gives me twelve weeks to work full-time and save every penny I can towards that and after that I have no idea what I’m doing. takeAs a twenty something graduate I feel like I’m blagging it everyday. I learned all these skills at university and I have this degree but now I am just another graduate. Eventually I hope to settle and find something I love but until then I am bound to endless wondering as to whether I am making the right decisions: whether I’m in the right job, whether now is the right time to travel, whether it is acceptable that I binge watched a whole series on Netflix yesterday…

For me being a twenty-something is all about confusion, misdirection and a few really bad mistakes.large1Is that okay?  I’m not sure yet…ask me in ten years..

Can anyone else relate to this? Let me know..

Stay Strong People


9 thoughts on “Twenty Something Chaos

  1. Saw you liked my post called “Closing in on 26.” Thanks for reading! I can promise you that I felt very similarly to you when I graduated college. Now, almost 26, I feel different. I mean, yes, I still do not feel like an adult, but it is amazing how much you can learn in 2-3 years. I can’t and won’t tell you how to live your life, but I can suggest: do what makes you happy. I graduated at 21, substitute taught for a year knowing I’d be moving and not wanting a contract, got engaged and married at 22, moved 3000 miles away with my new husband and *gasp* worked at a coffee shop for a year and a half! Now I have a great job teaching at a school that I love, but I know I wouldn’t be here if I rushed it. I know that I could have gotten a job much sooner, but would I have loved it? Would I be able to make a killer dry double cappuccino? Would I have met one of my best friends? I don’t regret anything, except not moving here sooner because I thought I would upset my family if I moved before I was married. That’s my only unfortunate mistake. The rest are just part of being a young adult.

    Go be happy, because only you know exactly what to do to make that happen!



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    1. Thank you and that’s okay! It is really reassuring to know that its normal to feel like this, I think most people do in their early twenties! Glad to hear that your twenties have panned out well 🙂 and yeah I agree it’s definitely important to do what makes you happy, especially in your twenties when you are just starting to create a life for yourself. Thank you for reading and commenting xxx


  2. First off, let me give you a hug *hug*. I’m 26 now and I’ve been feeling the same for the last, idk, 6-7 years? It’s exhausting but it’s so perfectly normal to feel so. Most of my confusion stems from my inability to decide which values I truly believe in and I’ve changed my perception about things so many times. Over the years, I’ve been pondering about questions about life like: Does wealth matter? Does corporate life suit me? What if I don’t have one single grand “passion” (oh, that word is so loaded with burdens)? Do I owe the world something? What if I’ll never be as good as I want to be? Do I want to get married? Would I be missing on something if I just stayed here in my hometown? And so on and so forth.

    I’m still feeling confused every now and then, but if there’s one thing I’m certain of by now, it’s that THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG WAY OF LIVING A LIFE. As long as it makes you happy. I’m so with melsnyder89. Do what makes you happy. Everything else is bullshit. Don’t make decisions just because society tells you so.

    I’d like to share something from Joe Martino, founder of Collective Evolution ( because I found it to be so soothing for my anxious mind. I totally recommend the site. Anyway, this is what I wrote to him:

    “I’ve always been so hard on myself that no matter what I do and even when I do it quite well, I’m never happy about it because there’s always someone out there doing it better, people who have “made it”, etc. It can be so intimidating. In theory, I know that it shouldn’t rob joy and contentment away from me, but in reality, it often does.”

    And he replied:

    “The thoughts and feelings you’ve explained are something so many of us go through, especially in a society that doesn’t encourage us much to really learn about and understand ourselves deeply. You got all it takes and that’s all you need to know and internalize. You’re already doing it perfect and any “improvement” in anything is just a step in experience. It’s all part of the journey and that journey doesn’t necessarily mean having to become the best or figuring out a way for it to be “perfect.” Listen to what your gut says about anything you feel and let it guide you to where you need to go.”

    You’re not alone. Enjoy the ride 🙂

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    1. Aw thank you for taking the time to reply. You are so right, it is exhausting but it’s also so normal. I’m the same, I can’t figure out what is most important to me and therefore what to focus on.. It changes every day! I try and just go towards what will make me happy but sometimes it’s so much more confusing than that! Thanks for directing me to that website, I’ve read things from it a few times and it’s always made a lot of sense ☺️


  3. Your sentiments ring true for a 24-year-old in the USA! I think artistic people in their twenties have a special rollercoaster of their own to ride, or so I’ve found. So glad you can get away for six weeks, I did something similar this year and it changed my life. Peace ❤


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