Change happens every day. Change is what shapes us and our lives; it moves us forward and pulls us back. Some changes we can control & some we can’t. No matter what, change is usually a scary thing.
The biggest uncontrollable change of your twenties is usually moving away from home or leaving university (and moving back home again). This is a big change because it opens us up to a world of possibilities, to a world of changes and we are in charge of maneuvering those changes.
The biggest thing that holds us back is usually fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear that you have taken the wrong job, moved to the wrong place, made the wrong decision. You have no idea how these decisions will affect your future and this is terrifying. It is why so many grads simply stew in their decisions for the year or two after leaving university. I’m beginning to realize that in this situation there is no wrong decision, there is no wrong change. There is only opportunity. Opportunity to discover something worthwhile, opportunity to discover something I hate, opportunity to fail or succeed but only by making these changes can I figure all this out.
I was talking to a friend who has been in the same situation as me, constantly wondering and worrying about what a post university life looks like and what she wants from it but she said that all we can do is tick things off. Try and fail. Take different jobs and if you don’t like it, move on. Keep changing, moving and having different experiences until you find one (and you will) that you love and is worth staying for.
Change can also be scary because we can forget that there is actually more than one option. It’s never that black and white and by thinking that you only have one option, one path, one way to go you mentally put yourself into a corner. It can take a while to figure out the things you want to try but once you do you aren’t limited to only one thing, at least not while you’re still young and trying to find your way.
If you’re in your twenties and unsure about what you’re doing and you’re worried that every decision you make will gravely affect you when you’re sixty. Don’t. The most important thing is that you’re trying things, you’re going up for different jobs, you’re making plans and you’re moving forward. Making mistakes is okay. It just means you’re ready for another change and you’re another step closer to finding what you really want to do.
Some changes we can’t control: death, other people leaving or moving away, the price of Freddos. However we can control the direction of our career, we can control who we are with, and we can control whether to open ourselves up to new experiences.
Just go for it okay?
Stay Strong xoxoxo