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Quarter Life Crisis?

A quarter life crises is something us twenty somethings love to joke about. However I do believe it is a real thing, times are tough for our generation and sometimes the pressure of it all can get to us. Here are some things I have personally experienced and how I overcome them. Let me know if any of them resonate with you!

1. You change your mind about everything.
It could be big things like what you want to with your life or it could be small things like what to eat for dinner. You find yourself stressing over every decision as if it could be the make or break of you. You thought you knew exactly what you wanted but now you question it on a daily basis.

2. You have moments of existential dread.
You could be just chilling, watching Netflix when suddenly a wave of dread hits you. In a fleeting moment you see your life flash before your eyes and the enormity of life and death hits you all in that second. It quickly passes and you get back to your binge watching session. This happens a lot.

3. University seems like a different life.
You have a degree? Do you really? University now seems so far away, it feels like another life. You know that your degree gave you many impressive skills but sometimes it feels like you’re forgetting them all. You look back on your degree with fondness and wonder if you would appreciate it all now if you were to go back.


4. You can’t afford your own place.
The soaring rent prices and the impossibility of the housing ladder means that you’re still living at home. You’ve forgotten what it’s like to live on your own and you start to feel like you’ll never have that again.

5. Bad habits.
All this stressing has made you pick up some bad habits, the motivation you once felt is harder to muster. Your fleeting days off from work are spent lounging around thinking about what you should be doing. The gym that you once went to 4 times per week now sees your presence only twice a week.

6. Job Stress.
You have some idea of where you want to be in 5/10 years but what about now? You’re most definitely over qualified for the jobs you’re doing and even if you enjoy your job, you know deep down you’re selling yourself short…you just don’t know what to do. Your end goal and your present situation are so far apart that bridging the gap seems like it would take a miracle.

I relate to Chandler so much more now…

What can you do?

1. What do you want? What would make you happy?
This can be hard because all of us, deep down would probably want things that are slightly different from our present situations. Write down what would actually make you happy, write down what you want from life and get specific. It will help you figure out what is actually causing your current feelings.


2. What is giving your life value?
Really think long and hard about the people and activities that you have in your life. Do they add value and do you add value to them?  If you aren’t getting value from your experiences, the people in your life and if you’re not adding value to others lives. How can you change that?

3. Look for the new.
New jobs, new friends, new experiences. Whether you want to travel, do a master’s degree, start a blog or look for a job that excites you. Don’t delay it. Write down one thing that you really want to do and work towards doing it.

4. Don’t give up!
This is the most important thing, do not give up. The worst thing you could do is give up and resign yourself to a life of monotony. You only have one life and it’s a pretty short one at that so don’t let it pass you by just because you’re scared or worried what people will think. Put yourself out there and don’t be scared to fail.

Listen to Joey…

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Stay Strong xoxoxo

21 thoughts on “Quarter Life Crisis?

  1. Exactly what I’ve been feeling recently! It’s only been a year since I’ve graduated from college, and the future looks so uncertain right now. There’s the stress of finding a *long term, stable* job, but also the question of whether to pursue a Master’s degree for that, too. Guess only time will tell…Thank you for sharing!


  2. I enjoy your writings about fresh graduate. I can relate with all of them!
    Its good to know these things are not peculiar to my country.

    I’m assured that things will get better with time. We’ll either change things with time or time would change things in us…

    Thanks for sharing, can we connect on Facebook please?


    1. Definitely counts, I think these feelings are just part of life, sometimes I feel like they’ll never go but then other times I don’t feel them at all… True, just gotta work through them and just stay positive 🙂 Thanks for reading!


  3. Listen to Joey…. I can relate to FRIENDS now more than before as a child. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve re-watched them on Netflix. Nice post!! Very relatable


  4. I would say that the ‘quarter-life crisis’ is just as relevant to everyone who’s considering what to do with their lives and how to overcome monotony. This is a great motivational list, thank you for writing it!


  5. I’m not in my 20s anymore. 🙂 But I can remember feeling this way. Life can become so overwhelming that it can consume you. But I like your tips to show what people CAN do. So many times we are focused on things in the past that we can’t change. But there are things in the present that we can work on to create a different future. Great tips showing how people can overcome!


  6. Haha this was incredibly relatable!

    And you saved the best for the last. At this age, since you are always changing your mind, always trying something new, it is very easy to fail at a lot of things… which is absolutely okay! What’s important is that you keep going, keep trying more new things, find what you love, fail if you fail, get back up and go again. Just don’t give up!

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